Does it dry up like a raisin in the sun, or fester like a sore and then run?
Does it crust and sugar over like a syrupy sweet, or stink like rotten meat?
Does is sag like a heavy load, or does it explode?
— Langston Hughes
Webster defined deferment as the act or instance of delaying or putting off. Harlem renaissance poet Langston Hughes articulated in his poem the realities of dreams unrealized. Dream deferment bears more serious consequences than the deferment of other life tasks.
What really does happen if you and I fail to use each day as a road toward our dreams? Often our dream dries up and shrivels into would have, could haves and should haves. Putting off the desire to go back to school, to take the step of entrepreneurship, or to switch careers can leave us in a state of constant compromising, and our hope truly dries up like a raisin in the sun. Where there is no hope, there is no life, and where there is no life, then the death of the dreamers dream occurs.
Deferment of the dream for others can cause a certain soreness to raise up in our lives. We have all met people that were bitter and angry because they have not progressed in life as the would have desired. Anger and bitterness leave sores upon the attitude, character, and demeanor of the individual, and over time these sores fester and leak the poison of blame. Blame is a dangerous poison because not only does it poison the dreamer, but it also poisons anyone that comes in contact with the venomous blamer.”They wouldn’t let me achieve my dream and they will not let you because of our race, age, gender, upbringing, lack of money……and so on”. The sore of blame becomes an infection of distrust and disbelief, and again the dream of the dreamer dies.
Still others through deferment of their dreams will cover their dreams with nice sounding excuses that make it look like they are in hot pursuit of their dreams. When my boss stops adding to my workload, or when the children get a little older, after the holiday, or the summer, or as soon as I payoff my student loan. While legitimate concerns are real and may cause us to change the course towards our dream, many will use these very reasons to pursue their dreams as cover for their non-performance. We may cover up our non-performance with sweet sounding excuses for a short period of time. Just like we can cover our lack of bathing with perfumes and cologne for a short time, but eventually we will start to stink like rotten meat. And the stink of non-performance is just as evident as not bathing. Dream pursuit is often more about who we become in that pursuit, and the achiever knows that life’s speed bumps are not designed to cover our lack of effort, and if we allow them to we will eventually reek of non-pursuit, and again the dream of the dreamer dies.
For still some others, the unrealized dream becomes a heavy burden to bear. Each day of the journey toward the dream adds a pound of frustration, and a ton of anxiety. Some much so that the shoulders of the dreamer begin to sag, and the countenance of a once excited dreamer is weighed down to the frown of a discouraged worker. Working towards our dream can be a difficult assignment, and if we view it as work, then eventually it will weigh on our minds and our physical bodies. When we are experiencing frustration and worry, and doubt, it is usually because our dream is now work and not pursuit. This is when the dream is required to re-visit the dream, and stir up the passion from within to pursue it with vigor. Passionate pursuit of a worthwhile dream is the antidote to all of our dream killing ailments. When we as individuals ignore the pitfall of delaying our mission, when we avoid blaming others for our lack of achievement, and ignore our sweet sounding excuses. When we push through our frustrations and have more fun, then and only then will we experience the explosion of our wildest dreams.
What does your explosion look like? What does your freedom feel like? Where will you spend you time? Who will you help? How much will you have? What will your morning hours be filled with? Who will you love on more? Is a week vacation long enough? Will your children enjoy the swimming pool? Will you days be filled with thanksgiving, and praise to God? Without the burden of debt, how high will you soar? When driving will you dread filling up the tank? How much peace is enough? How long… how high… how wide?
TEAM AOJ1, do not delay, start the pursuit right now… For if you do not, what happens to your dream deferred?